The Long Drive: Health, Pace, and Preventive Maintenance One of the core principles of this practice is little and often, over the long haul . Real progress almost always happens in small, stepwise advances. A wise patient once told me, “God gives you only the challenges you’re prepared to handle,” and over time I’ve found that to be remarkably true. Life rarely moves in dramatic leaps—it moves in steady miles. I often think of the human body like a car on a long road trip. O

Life Is Better When You Don’t Walk Alone Life is easier when you don’t walk alone. When you fall, someone helps you back up. The problem is that many people feel like they don’t have anyone to walk with—and to be fair, people will let you down. That reality is unavoidable. This is why I’m a strong advocate for what I call distant mentors . There are countless people whose work has shaped the way I think, live, and practice—many of whom I’ll never meet. One advantage of learn

When Goals Stop Working: Recognizing a New Chapter of Life For the past 10 to 15 years, once or twice a year, I’ve sat down and mapped out goals for the coming calendar year. For most of that time, I was remarkably consistent at hitting the majority of them. 2025 was different. It was the year I missed more goals than I completed — and I’ve spent a lot of time reflecting on why. The answer, I think, is simple but uncomfortable: I transitioned into a new chapter of life withou

Perspective, Normal, and the Illusion of “Compared to What?” One of the most common—and quietly corrosive—questions people wrestle with is: Compared to what? Compared to who? Compared to where I “should” be by now? Broadening perspective is one of the most powerful—and humbling—things we can do in life. Many of us walk around with the quiet belief that we don’t have enough, aren’t good enough, or should be further along. And the uncomfortable truth is this: all of that might